When an infant comes into the world the first contact is with
the “mother”. The “mother” plays a central role in the infant’s development. By
development it is both the physical and psychological development. The infant
goes through a myriad of feelings and it is very vital for the mother to be
able to contain all those feelings which are being projected by the infant. By
providing a “holding environment” the mother gives a sense of security and
comfort to the growing infant. This holding is the “physical holding” by the
mother as well as the “psychological holding”.
Another important mental activity that the “mother” engages
with the baby is the art of “mirroring”. Mirroring is the ability to respond
back to the child. For example, when the mother and baby are playing and the
baby looks at the mother and smiles the mother would reciprocate the smile
back.
The baby starts to
develop a sense of self through the “mother”. In the early years of infancy there is no such
differentiation in the infant’s mind between himself/ herself and the mother.
They believe they are one “unit”. Gradually as the infant starts to grow and
begins to get a sense of his/ her surroundings and the fact that the mother is
a separate entity and is located in the external world the concept of the “I”
start to emerge and with that develops the “other”. This recognition is a major
milestone in the psychological makeup of the infant. The “mother” in the
external world begins to get internalized into the child’s mind. This process
of internalization is very important. The baby then does not then always need
the “mother” to be physically present as he/ she has that internal image of the
“mother” in his/ her mind. This “mother” is not an ideal mother and at times
does fail to gratify the infant’s needs. This failure is a healthy sort of a
failure as it teaches the infant the impingements by reality.
When the infant is in its first six months of infancy he/ she
tends to have a split image of this “mother” in the external world i.e. the
mother is seen as all good and a benevolent figure as opposed to the bad mother
who does not gratify the baby’s needs. The baby actually believes that there
are two separate mothers. Gradually as the infant starts to grow he/ she starts
to process that fact that it is the same mother who at times is caring and
nurturing and also unable to satiate his/ her needs.
This integration that happens
is a very important development that takes place at a psychological level. The
failure of this integration can later on lead to pathologies and neurosis in
adulthood.